Iglesia Emanuel Ministry Celebration

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By Margot Hausmann

Blacknall is partnering with Iglesia Emanuel, a local Latino Presbyterian congregation, to host their third annual ministry celebration, including dinner and entertainment. This year will be very powerful, as the theme for the evening is: “Journeys to Durham: Receiving the Stories of Our Immigrant Neighbors.”

So mark your calendars for Saturday evening, March 28; 6-8pm, Trinity Avenue Presbyterian Church. It is such a fun evening! The purpose is twofold: fundraising to support and expand the church’s amazing ministry in the community, and a precious opportunity for friendship and fellowship. Because seating will go fast, RSVP to Margot Hausmann asap.


Read more from the February Newsletter . . .

Pastor’s Letter by Goodie Bell

Blacknall to Host the Fellowship Community Annual Gathering by Allan Poole

God at Work by Ashley Weinard

Chefs for Change by Anne Paulson

Durham Pilgrimage of Pain & Hope

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February 28-March 1

Pilgrimage Interest Form | Due Feb. 16

Join with Durhamites from St. John’s and Mount Level as a group of "pilgrims" in a full weekend experience first pioneered over a decade ago by Blacknall's Chris Rice and now run by DurhamCares in partnership with the Duke Center for Reconciliation. DurhamCares describes the Durham Pilgrimage of Pain and Hope as "a journey into the story of Durham, the story of God, and our own stories as pilgrims" that, "through encounters that foster a posture of listening and reflection," aims to help us "see how our discipleship impacts, and is impacted by, the place we live." 

Full participation in the program is important. This includes a pre-meeting on Tuesday evening Feb. 25; the Pilgrimage weekend; and a debrief follow up meeting (TBD). The Pilgrimage runs 3 pm - 8:30 pm on Friday Feb. 28; 8:45 am - 7:30 pm on Saturday, February 29; and 7:30 am - 4 pm on Sunday, March 1.  

This program is organized by Blacknall's Durham Ministries and Engagement Team (DMET) and is subsidized by Blacknall. We hope for a racially diverse group of approximately 20 from the three churches to deepen the program's immersive learning, the relationships between our churches, and the conversations in our city about race. For more information, go to the "Pilgrimage" tab on the DurhamCares website or email DMET chair Warren Gould.

The fee to participate, including meals, is $150. Financial assistance may be requested. If you are interested in participating, you must fill out the Pilgrimage Interest Form by Feb. 16.

Congregational Meeting to Elect Officers

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Sunday, Feb. 16, 8:30 & 11 a.m.

Read Bios Here

The Class of 2023 officers will be voted on at the end of both  services. Officers serve three-year terms. Elder nominees (7 nominees for 5 positions): Jeff Baker, Evan Cate, Doug Dahms, Alex Hartemink, Susan Kinghorn, Kathy Mitchell, Katie Reeder-Hayes. Deacon nominees (6 nominees for 6 positions): Rick Copland, Bo Harrison, James Junker, Fabian Linares, Sarah Solie, John Warnell.

Lenten Journey Into Prayer 

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April 3-4 | Haw River State Park

Lenten Journey into Prayer Sign Up

This Lenten Journey will kick off with one meeting on Sunday, February 23 (5:30-6:30 p.m., Upper Room) and will culminate in a 24-hour contemplative retreat beginning Friday, April 3 at 4 p.m. through Saturday afternoon. Location: Haw River State Park in Browns Summit, NC.

Participants will receive weekly guides for reflection to encourage their spiritual practice throughout the Lenten season. This spring retreat, led by Martha Carlough, will incorporate expansive quiet time, large group sessions, meals and prayer together. 

Cost for a double occupancy motel-like room, meals, etc. is $100.   There are some single rooms for $125.  Some partial scholarships are available, contact Margaret Frothingham by Feb.13.  Registration is open now and closes on February 20. Retreat limit is 35 women.  

Staff Retirements

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A letter from Allan Poole

Dear Blacknall family,
 
Almost every Tuesday morning our Blacknall staff gathers for our weekly time to study Scripture, go over calendars, talk through challenges, share joys, and pray for the needs of the congregation.  If you have walked down the hallway during that hour from 9.30 to 10.30 you might wonder, “What in the world…”, because of the laughter that is emanating from the parlor. It is one of the deep joys of our work together, to share it with others whom the Lord has brought alongside.  One staff member confessed that in leaving our staff Christmas party each year, there are often tears of gratitude. Imagine that.  Crying in gratitude after a staff party!  But such are the folks with whom I have the privilege of serving.
 
I dare to believe that such a grace makes a significant mark on the larger congregation.  So, when there is a change, we will all feel it. As we should. This year we are being asked to prepare for the retirement of two beloved staff members.  
 
Margaret Frothingham has been around Blacknall for a long time.  But when she joined the staff just over fifteen years ago, we became a much stronger, better place.  Now she and Rich have determined that it is time to focus on their children’s children, to practice with her own family the hospitality that she has so generously shown so many of us.  She will step down from her Blacknall responsibilities mid-year, at the end of June.
 
David Stuntz first came to Blacknall in the 1970’s, when he provided worship leadership and administrative assistance alongside Ed Henegar.  He then returned in 1998, leaving a university teaching position in Erie, PA, to take up his post as Blacknall’s Director of Music and Worship. He has also served as a de facto pastor to the choir and to the LCs.  Now, after more than twenty years, he and Ann have decided that the time is right to step into the next phase of their lives. Dave’s last Sunday at Blacknall will be the last Sunday of 2020.  
 
I simply don’t want to think about these impending departures.  I am having a difficult time imagining our life together without Margaret and Dave in their respective roles.  But the Session (our elders) has wisely seen in these announcements the need and opportunity to step back and take a broad look at the personnel needs for Blacknall, thinking not just about replacing these two but taking advantage of the moment to consider how best to structure job descriptions across the board in order most faithfully to serve this part of Christ’s body over the next five years. 
 
Toward  that end, last November the Session formed a temporary working group called the Personnel Planning Team.  Chaired by Michael Whisenhunt, the group consists of representatives from our Personnel Committee, including that committee’s chair, Ann Talton Lee, elder Charlie Schaefer, and me.  Those four are joined by Alexa Gerend, Melissa Hartemink, Maggie Holland, Tanya Moore, Mark Paulson, and Betsy Poole.  The group has two particular charges:  1) to take a look at the current job descriptions, defining current ministries and tasks addressed by staff, paying attention as well to ministry opportunities not currently in focus, and 2) to prioritize those tasks and ministries and match them with possible future staff positions. The team’s work will then be submitted to the Session as guidance for future hires. (It is important to note here that the Personnel Planning Team is not a search committee; the responsibility for forming search committees remains with the Session, supported by the Personnel Committee according to our hiring policies and practices.)  
 
I would like to invite you to channel your sorrow at this news into prayer, giving thanks first of all for Margaret and Dave and their families and for their contributions to Blacknall’s life and ministry.  While you are at it, pray for them as they enter this time of planning and transition, and for us as a congregation, that we would have the ability to hear and respond to the Holy Spirit’s voice as we look toward a season of change and the welcome of new staff.  Of course, you are welcome to speak to anyone on the Personnel Planning Team or the Session with your thoughts; as we have sometimes done in the past, we have established a dedicated email address for input (PPT@blacknall.org).  Your suggestions will be seen by the team listed above.  
 
We hope that as we gain clarity about positions and job descriptions, you all might serve as a “committee of the whole” in identifying folks who might be surprised by the Lord’s invitation to step into service at Blacknall.  It is a daunting prospect, but the Lord is faithful.  Change brings out all kinds of things in people; let us encourage each other with the knowledge that Jesus Christ is the Head of the Church, and as we seek to honor him, he will lead.
 
Gratefully,
 
Allan

Pastor's Letter | David Dunderdale

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“Watch out, and beware of the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.”

The Gospels never mention Jesus ever laughing. In fact, the word “laugh” or “laughter” only appears six times in the entire New Testament and only once in a positive way, and that in the future tense! We are told of people laughing at Jesus (Matt. 9:24; Mark 5:40; Luke 8:53) and we are told to let our “laughter be turned into mourning” (James 4:9). In Luke’s Beatitudes Jesus says, “Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh” and “Woe to you who are laughing now, for you will mourn and weep.” (Luke 6:21,25)

One could easily get the impression that being a Christian is a very serious and sober matter with no room for frivolity or laughter. I do believe that much of our laughter is a shallow cover for our spiritual and moral poverty. We certainly should be weeping more.

But as I read the Gospels more and more, I am convinced that the life that Jesus shared with the twelve must have included much laughter. As you read the Gospels you can begin to imagine the possibility of turning it into a movie called “The 12 Stooges.” Jesus is this brilliant, wonderful, kind, powerful man—in fact, God’s Son come to earth—and he is surrounded by these twelve guys who are earnest and try really hard but sometimes, in very humorous ways, just don’t get it!

One of my favorite examples is in Matthew 16. The Pharisees and the Sadducees come to Jesus to demand that he give them a “sign from heaven.” Jesus “refuses” (as if somehow any of the 100’s of miracles Jesus had already done didn’t matter!) and says no sign will be given to this generation except the sign of Jonah.

Jesus and the Twelve then get in the boat and cross to the other side of the lake. When they get to the other side the disciples realize that they had forgotten to bring any bread. At that moment Jesus says to them, “Watch out, and beware of the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.” “Watch out, and beware of the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees.” Clearly Jesus is still replaying in his head the confrontation he had just had with the Pharisees and Sadducees.

The disciples do not have a clue. Their response is, “Yeah, man, I told you we should have brought the bread!” We can imagine them blaming each other, “Jesus, I told Andrew to grab it before we left.” “Thomas said he was going to get it!” “I thought the women were going to put it in our bag!”

At this point I don’t think Jesus is laughing. I think he is exasperated. This is serious. The yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees will destroy them. The Twelve are stuck on the question of what’s for dinner when the survival of their souls is at stake. And this is after Jesus had fed the 5,000 and after he had fed the 4,000. “Really!?! ‘What’s for dinner?’ is your biggest concern right now?”

But at some point, this story must have become humorous. At some point the disciples began re-telling this story. The way Matthew tells it, it’s clear that he is not casting the disciples in the best light. They must have laughed at themselves, “We were so clueless!” I wonder. Whenever the disciples started getting impressed with themselves or started getting critical of how clueless other people were, did Jesus just look at them and say, in mock horror, “Who brought the bread?!?”

I wonder. The very next story in Matthew 16 is Peter’s Great Confession where he confesses that Jesus is “the Christ, the Son of the Living God.” And then immediately rebukes Jesus for saying that the Messiah would have to suffer and die. Just when you think, “Oh, they get it!” I wonder. What did Jesus say the next time he was alone with the Father?

“I couldn’t believe what they said when I tried to warn them about the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees!”

“Yeah, well, you picked them!”

“Ha! So you could reveal to them that I am the Messiah, your Son, but you couldn’t reveal to them that I was speaking metaphorically about the yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees??”

[This raises an interesting question. What does humor look like within the Trinity? What sorts of humor are appropriate within the Blessed Communion of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit?]

Anyway, all of this to say, I am not laughing at the Twelve. I am laughing with the Twelve. Because even with the benefits of hindsight and reading this story over and over, I am left wondering, what is the “yeast of the Pharisees and Sadducees”?

The Pharisees and Sadducees were opponents. They were the two main parties in the Jewish ruling council, the Sanhedrin. They were the Republicans and Democrats, the Evangelicals and Progressives. They would have considered themselves very different from the Other.

Jesus comes along and despite whatever differences there might be between Pharisees and Sadducees (Republicans and Democrats? Evangelicals and Progressives??), their teachings contain the same yeast that can infect the whole loaf of the community’s shared life.

In our own time of polarization and partisan divide, might Jesus be saying the same thing to us? Beware of the yeast of both sides. But what is that yeast? I am curious what you would say that yeast is that marks both sides of our divides. I would love to hear from you what you think.

Might it be that both sides, the Pharisees and Sadducees as well as the parties in our divides, give a pretense of godliness but refuse to submit to the lordship of Jesus Christ? Might it be our inclination to pick and choose which parts of Jesus and his gospel we like and to ignore the parts we don’t like? Might it be our refusal to fully believe based on the miracles Jesus has already done but demanding more miracles so we can postpone our commitment to him a little longer?

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I wonder. I wonder if I should be weeping more than I do.

David


Read more from the January Newsletter . . .
Get to Know Leslie Cenezy
Volunteering with International Students, Inc by Michael & Hanna Rizk

Get to Know Leslie

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Get to know Leslie Cenezy, Blacknall’s new Business Manager!

Tell us a little about yourself & your family -
I am a Durham native and grew up at Blacknall. I moved back here about 6 years ago after finishing grad school and rejoined Blacknall in 2016. I met my husband, Del, in his native Haiti and we decided we just had to be together! He moved here and we were married at Blacknall in 2017. Then we had our beautiful girl Anna in 2018 and she is a joy to us! We are so happy to be part of the Blacknall family. 

What are three things you're passionate about?
I am a mental health advocate and believe it affects everyone directly or indirectly. I greatly enjoy connecting with people who are different than me, especially across languages and cultures. Lastly, I'm most fulfilled when I'm helping someone else and am passionate that 'helping' is a primary and divine purpose.

What attracted you to this role at Blacknall?
I had been searching for awhile for the next step professionally. When I saw the posting I felt such joy and peace about it immediately. It's a perfect combination of my skills, experience and current goals both personally and professionally. I also couldn't be more proud to be able to serve Blacknall in this way as the staff and people have been such a blessing to me and my family.

What are you most looking forward to in your new role?
I love connecting people and problem solving to help someone find what or who they need in that moment. I'm confident I will have plenty of opportunity to do that in this role!


Read more from the January Newsletter…
Pastor’s Letter by David Dunderdale
Volunteering with International Students, Inc by Michael & Hanna Rizk

Volunteering with International Students, Inc.

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By Michael & Hanna Rizk

International students are great! At least that has been our experience. Both of us spent lots of time with and developed enduring friendships with international students while we were students at Duke many years ago. So, when we returned to the area, we looked forward to getting involved with international students once again. Supper Club was an easy, fun way for us to do that. 

We were matched up with two very different students -- one who had already spent time in the US and seemed to have a good grasp on how things work here and one who was completely new to the country and in the process of figuring things out. In hosting them at our house for a few meals, we gained a peek into their lives and a reminder that simple acts of welcoming are truly appreciated by all sorts of people. Whether you have spent lots of time with international students before or none at all, Supper Club is an easy way to serve through welcoming and to have the opportunity to at least briefly share life with some great people.

If you’d like to serve as a Supper Club host (registration deadline is Jan. 18) or volunteer in other ways with International Students, Inc, please visit our website  or contact Dan Kronstad or Scott Hawkins.

Photo: A Supper Club Group, Fall 2019


Read more from the January 2020 Newsletter . . .
Pastor’s Letter by David Dunderdale
Get to Know Leslie Cenezy

Paula Rinehart Book Reading

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Sunday, Jan. 26, 6:30-8 p.m. | Fellowship Hall

Come enjoy a book reading and fellowship night with Paula Rinehart (Blacknall elder) and Connally Gilliam (writer, speaker, artist), as they share from their new book And Yet, Undaunted: Embraced by the Goodness of God in the Chaos of Life.

An evening to remember that God is good even in the chaos of life.

Contact: Margaret Frothingham

Spring Women's Bible Study

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Register here

Thursdays, January 9-April 23, 9:30-11:20 a.m.

For the Spring semester, the focus will be the book of 1 Peter. Each Thursday morning will include worship, teaching, fellowship, and small groups. Small group assignments will remain the same. Childcare is provided for birth through age 4. The registration fee is $20 for Spring semester. Scholarships are available. Feel free to invite a friend.  

Uneven Ground Survey

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Available here

As part of our focus on housing and homelessness this year, Blacknall's Durham Ministries and Engagement Team (DMET) sponsored Bull City 150's Uneven Ground exhibit and several events associated with it. These included an evening talk, a 30s, 40s, and Friends Sunday school class, a "listening session" on affordable housing, and a roundtable discussion.

The DMET would appreciate your feedback if you went through the exhibit or attended any of these events. The anonymous 10-minute survey is open until Dec. 29 (you may include your name if you’d like). Thank you!

Christmas Eve Services

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Tuesday, Dec. 24 | Sanctuary

  • 4 p.m. Service - In an effort for all ages to explore the incarnation, we’re going to experiment this year with a new 45-minute service. It’s open to all and we hope it will be particularly inviting to families with younger children. No childcare provided so that we have lots of youthful and joyful singing as we worship together!

  • 5:30 p.m. Service - A service with candles and carols. Childcare through age 3.

  • 7:30 p.m. Service - A service with candles, carols, and communion. Childcare will not be provided.

A Letter of Thanks

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By Donna McBrite

Dear Blacknall Family,

I wanted to write a short thank you as I prepare to move from the Triangle after more than 20 years. It’s still hard to believe I have worked at Blacknall for 5 years, but then again I feel I have known some of you much longer. You all certainly welcomed me as a member of the family, and your hospitality and welcome began before my initial interview, and has extended through my farewell. From the cards, phone calls, drop in visits and gifts your generosity and heartfelt expressions have meant the world to me.

I can’t thank you all enough for the relationships we have formed. I would be remiss if I didn’t specifically thank the “Wednesday morning guys” that truly help keep Blacknall running. I don’t know how I would have managed all the building maintenance issues that go along with a 100+ year old building. Thankfully the Lord brought along Roger, Ken, Rick and the gang to walk alongside me. This group of men came to me with servant’s hearts and an unending giving spirit, along with some serious handyman skills! The many people that work quietly in the background at Blacknall (you all know who you are!) is an amazing testimony to using the gifts God has given to serve the Lord.

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To the staff and church leadership, as well as the Personnel committee, I say thank you again! It’s amazing to see how God raises up the next leaders in this church with each new year. From the deacons and elders to all the many committees, the work of this body could not happen without the commitment to serve. I appreciate the importance of prayer in all you do and I will keep you all in my prayers, and I ask for your prayers as I attempt to discern my next steps.

Thank you again for the many blessings I have received,

Donna


Read more December Newsletter articles…
Pastor’s Letter | Allan Poole
Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death | Alice Wisler
Advent in the Library | Mindy Lance

Advent in the Library

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By Mindy Lance

Prepare your heart for Christ's coming. Looking to focus on the real meaning of Christmas? The Blacknall Library can be a resource to help you and your family ready your hearts and minds for the celebration of God's gift. You can find children's storybooks and videos and Advent devotionals for all ages. Here are just a few from our collection:

For families:

  • A Jesus Christmas by Barbara Reaoch – Focuses on how God prepared the world for Jesus right from the beginning of creation.

  • The Way to the Manger by Jeff and Abbey Land – Walks through the themes of hope, love, joy, and peace with talking points and activities for families to enjoy together.

  • Good Dirt by Lacy Finn Borgo – Combines kid-friendly activities, daily devotionals and Bible readings, introducing the 12 classical spiritual disciplines as tools to work the soil of the soul.

For adults:

  • Hidden Christmas by Tim Keller – Guides readers through an illuminating journey into the surprising background of the Nativity story.

  • Night Visions by Jan Richardson – Draws readers into the quiet spaces of an often-frenzied season, beckoning us to encounter the God who dwells in darkness as well as in daylight.

  • The Meaning Is in the Waiting by Paula Gooder – Focuses on the spiritual practice of waiting. Advent is about learning to love the waiting, being expectant rather than urgent, keeping us focused on God in the present, rather than on an uncertain future.


Read more December Newsletter articles…
Pastor’s Letter | Allan Poole
Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death | Alice Wisler
A Letter of Thanks | Donna McBrite

Surviving the Holidays After a Loved One’s Death

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By Alice Wisler

That holiday-pang hit my stomach the first October after Daniel died. Greeting me at an arts and craft shop were gold and silver stockings, a Christmas tree draped with turquoise balls and a wreath of pinecones and red berries. What was this? And was “Santa Claus Is Coming To Town” playing as well? It was only October.

I had anticipated that Christmas and the holidays would be tough. In fact, I’d wake on those cold mornings after Daniel died in February and be grateful that it was still months until his August birthday and even more months until Christmas. I dreaded living both without him. I would have preferred to have been steeped in cow manure. At least then I could take a hot bath with sweet smelling bubbles and be rid of the stench. But bereavement isn’t that way. As those who had gone on before let me know, you have to live through it.

Christmas came. I did live through it. It continues to happen as do the other significant days of the calendar year. Daniel never arrives at any of them although his memory lives on. By incorporating him into these days of festivity, I can cope.

Some of you have your child’s birthday and/or anniversary day within the November through January season. These days, in addition to the holidays everyone else is celebrating, make the season even more complicated and painful, I’m sure.

I offer eleven tips I’ve used to survive the holidays. Some are my own suggestions and some are borrowed from the many who walk the path of grief.

  1. Know you will survive. Others have done it and you will, too. Keep in mind that your first Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Day will not be easy.

  2. Find at least one person you can talk to or meet with during the holiday season. Perhaps this person has gone through a few Thanksgivings and Christmases before and can give you some helpful ideas that have worked for her.

  3. Don’t think you have to do the “traditional” activities of years past when your child was alive. Things will be different this holiday season and perhaps for all the rest to come. Your energy level is low. If no one in your household minds, skip putting up the tree. Forget spending hours making your holiday cookies.

  4. Spend the holidays with those who will let you talk about your child. You will need to have the freedom to say your child’s name and recall memories, if you choose to do so. Your stories about your child are wonderful legacies. Tell them boldly again and again.

  5. Shop for gifts online or through mail-order catalogs if going into the mall or stores brings too much pain. Thinking everyone is happily shopping at the malls with intact lives while your heart is crushed is terribly tough. Go easy on yourself.

  6. Getting away from the house is an idea that worked for my family. The first Christmas without Daniel we went to a nearby town and lived in the Embassy Suites. The kids enjoyed the indoor pool and breakfast buffets. Christmases that followed were spent at a rented cottage on the shore and the Christmas we rented the beach house, we were able to invite extended family to join us. We all shared in the cooking.

  7. Create something to give to those who have helped you throughout the year. I made some very simple tree ornaments with “In Memory of Daniel” stamped on them and gave them to friends that first Christmas.

  8. Decorate the grave. Put up a plastic Christmas tree with lights. Sometimes being busy with decorating the grave gives a feeling of doing something for a child we can no longer hold.

  9. Do something in memory of your child. Donate to a charity or fund in his memory. Volunteer. My oldest daughter Rachel and I volunteer at the Hospice Tree of Remembrance each December and share memories of Daniel as we spend this time together.

  10. If your bereavement support group has a special candle-lighting service to remember the children in your area who have died, attend it. Doing something in memory of your child with others who understand the pain these holidays hold can be therapeutic.

  11. Spend time reflecting on what the season is about. Everyone around you may be frantic with attending parties, services, shopping and visiting relatives. Perhaps you used to be the same way. Now you may want to avoid some of the festivities. Give yourself permission to excuse yourself from them. Light a candle in your favorite scent. Record some thoughts in a journal. This is great therapy, too.

One day you will wake up and it will be January 2. The holidays will have ended. You will have made it. If you are like me, you will find that surviving the tinsel has made you stronger and although you may cry, somewhere within you, you will feel that core of new steel.

This post originally appeared on Oct. 5, 2009 at opentohope.com.


Read more December Newsletter articles…
Pastor’s Letter | Allan Poole
A Letter of Thanks | Donna McBrite
Advent in the Library | Mindy Lance